To Tell or Not to Tell

 

“To Tell or Not to Tell”

A Review of If I Tell You by Nick Olszyk

 

Distribution Service: Theatrical

MPAA Rating, Not rated at the time of this review

OSV Rating, Not rated at the time of this review

Reel Rating, Four Reels                    

 

                        I’m the only person I’ve ever met who considers his middle school years a golden era; for every other red-blooded human, early adolescence is awful though often transformative. This is certainly true of Michael (Etienne Kellici), whose late summer of bike rides and ill-conceived pranks is brought to an abrupt halt when he discovers a terrible secret and the temptation to share it. What unfolds is a taut and heartbreaking drama that shows God can bring great things out of even the worst circumstances.

            Michael lives an ordinary lower-middle class life in northern Georgia. His home is small but tidy with access to all the basics. His father Brian (Bill Heck) is unemployed and depressed. His mother Rosemary (Allison Miller) works as a nurse, trying to keep the family together. He also shares his room with his grandmother (Carol Kane), who plays bingo and pretends not to smoke. He spends most of his summer just hanging out with his friends, especially Alice (Kennedi Butler). They go biking, swim in lakes, gossip, and wonder about their futures. One night, his father falls asleep drunk, so his mom goes to a friend’s party by herself. When Michael wakes up, he sees his parents arguing fiercely. His mom seems distraught and has bruises on her face. Suddenly, all their family friends are distant. Yet when Michael confronts his parents, they are evasive. Not getting any information but knowing something is wrong, he starts down a destructive path.

            A clever story element by writer Tessa Blak, is the audience never knows more than Michael. Sometimes characters in the story know more them him, sometimes less, so there’s always a nice sense of tension that keeps the script rolling. This makes Michael an unreliable narrator, but it fits with his experiences as a tween, no longer an ignorant child but also unaware of the complexities of life. While this is more pronounced earlier in life, all of us “see through a glass darkly,” only perceiving a small amount of God’s providence. This should move us to mercy as the wrong others commit may not come from full knowledge.

            Pope St. John Paul the Great said that his favorite Bible verse was John 8:32b, “the Truth will set you free.” A truth is kept from Michael with disastrous consequences. Like many of his neighbors, he believes his father is abusing his mother, despite her insistence he is not. This causes unnecessary estrangement between them and a heightened sense of protection. The truth is that a great evil did befall his mom, but his father was not involved. Fortunately, they eventually tell Michael the truth, but it is clear they should have been honest from the beginning.

            His parents instruct Michael this thing must be kept a secret despite rumors and misunderstandings. They don’t even tell the police. Yet when this same evil happens to Alice’s mom, Rosemary and Michael are racked with guilt. In neither case is anybody lying. Keeping the 8^th commandment means that people have a right to privacy. Not all information is owed to all people. Yet when revealing events, even painful ones, can help others, it might be a sin of omission to withhold your story.

            When the truth eventually comes out, it creates tension and shunning. Yet God is not done with his children. When Alice’s mom suddenly begins to have a child during a power outage, Rosemary must come to rescue. Their tense situation produces a beautiful reconciliation, not just for themselves but their families. Forgiveness is always possible, though sometimes a “giant push” is needed. By the end, Michael has stood as a witness to all this. The film finishes with him riding a bike to the new child’s baptism. The washing away of original sin gives him a new start too.

            I suspect I have been frustratingly vague in analyzing the themes in this film, but it is only to resist well-constructed spoilers, not just the events but how and when they happen. This is one of the few films that is brutally honest about early adolescence without being overly graphic or sensational (Euphoria being the worst example). In a year with a slew of surprisingly good films (Young Washington, Project Haily Mary, The Sheep Detectives), here is another entry in what the best cinematic year of the decade.

        This article first appeared in Catholic World Report on August 31st, 2026.